What is Your Love Language?
Love is in the air, Love is everywhere
So I woke up this morning and checked my group chat messages. My friend asked me “Len, What’s your love language?” For a moment, I got confused and as usual, I ask my head to break this confusion by asking the wisest and most intelligent person in the WORLD. Do you know who’s that? *Drum roll* YESS, It’s MR. GOOGLE.
I end up getting caught and took a while to reply to my friend. Everyone has a different way of receiving and showing love to that special dearest person. Gary Chapman, an author, speaker, and counselor is an expert in helping people to form long-lasting relationships. Chapman released a book titled ‘The five love languages’, which outlined how people express their love and how they expect to receive love.
“Different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways.” -Gary Chapman-
So I came across the Mind Body Green website (I love this website so much. They answered every single question I needed to know.), MBG contributor Julie Nguyen explained, “Even love can sometimes get lost in translation when two partners speak different love languages.”. She was right, we always got lost in the translation of love.
I often get confused about my partner’s love language. To be honest, I love spoiling my boyfriend. I have issues that I always feel, my love isn’t enough. So to get rid of this feeling, I often give him gifts and those sudden surprise presents. At first, he was okay with it. But the longer I did it, he always give me this sour face when he said thank you. I thought he didn’t like my gifts. So I bought him more gifts until one day, he told me “You know Helen, I don’t mind it but you don’t have to buy me a lot of gifts. It feels so weird to me.”.
So I guess, my boyfriend isn’t someone who prioritizes love by receiving gifts. But I still do it anyway. Looks like he’s getting used to it.
So based on Gary Chapman’s book, here are the 5 love language which is;
1. Words of affirmation — This type of person finds comfort in words of encouragement, approval, support, love, and compliment. Words of affirmation may come in texting, calls, and directly talking.
2. Quality time — This type of person appreciates and feels love throughout the time spent together. Sometimes, in a room, just the two of them do nothing with each other but, the time spent being close to each other gives them great pleasure and comfort.
3. Acts of service — That moment when its partner is willing to do a small task when the person is busy (such as laundry or some chores). This person will appreciate and felt more love from the partner.
4. Gifts — This type of person is the type of person who feels loved by gifts. The more frequent gifts he/she gets, the more loved that person feels.
5.Touch — Physical touch and intimacy can be one of the most powerful approaches to expressing love. Holding hands in the park, cuddling on the couch, and kissing. A person of this type values that warm and comforting feeling and feels most loved by physical touch.
Are you curious about which one are you? Just head to the 5 Love language website and take the test. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
